Making It Really Good for Someone Other Than Just You
Making It Really Good for Someone Other Than Just You
Sit on the porch and watch the storm...together. Have the most important conversation of your life in the moment.
Inspiring words from Errol Doebler about vulnerability and sharing perceived embarrassment
Friendship grows through sharing the moment. In a conversation with Gina Fiedel this week I shared my vulnerability. As we talked, I shared how sitting on my porch watching the trees and wildlife (sometimes fog) was one of my most important regenerative activities.
The moments can be anywhere. I have long conversations with my son as we ride in the car. During my last visit, he was on a perfect sock quest for his daughter. We drove to a number of malls and stores looking for socks that met her sensitive foot and his quality criteria. During the quest, we talked about commuting choices, trees in Virginia woods, public transportation, the dual choice transmission of his new car, work values, life values, cats and pipe cleaners, East Coast dress standard challenges for someone from Santa Cruz, California, etc.
In conversation of the moment, active listening and empathy align with sharing to create conversation that builds relationship.
Connection is growth.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u9-SRKAA5uE&feature=share
Sit on the porch and watch the storm...together. Have the most important conversation of your life in the moment.
Inspiring words from Errol Doebler about vulnerability and sharing perceived embarrassment
Friendship grows through sharing the moment. In a conversation with Gina Fiedel this week I shared my vulnerability. As we talked, I shared how sitting on my porch watching the trees and wildlife (sometimes fog) was one of my most important regenerative activities.
The moments can be anywhere. I have long conversations with my son as we ride in the car. During my last visit, he was on a perfect sock quest for his daughter. We drove to a number of malls and stores looking for socks that met her sensitive foot and his quality criteria. During the quest, we talked about commuting choices, trees in Virginia woods, public transportation, the dual choice transmission of his new car, work values, life values, cats and pipe cleaners, East Coast dress standard challenges for someone from Santa Cruz, California, etc.
In conversation of the moment, active listening and empathy align with sharing to create conversation that builds relationship.
Connection is growth.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u9-SRKAA5uE&feature=share
I'm moved that you included our (vulnerable) conversation here and how we, together, allow for that, Zara Altair and I'm moved by all these thoughts and by Errol Doebler. I've got tears welled up and feel immense gratitude that vulnerability can rise up to the surface as a valued quality. It's felt like a life quest for me in so many ways- I am a devoted believer in the necessities and gateways of vulnerability and yet... And yet.
ReplyDeleteLearning to integrate life here on the ground with the complexities of life online has been a constantly interesting and important component to my life for the last several years. There are things I cannot seem to reconcile but continue to try and to make inroads around. What I've found over and over is that it's the relationships in each of their singular beauty that make for the most depth, joy and growth. What you say that "connection is growth" is perfect. It's so true.
(you have amazing, inspiring friendship with your two children)
(and a sock quest sounds right up my own alley)
Gina Fiedel Since i've moved, many of my best friendships are nurtured online even with both of my children who are now geographically distant. One of the gifts of online presence is the ability to nurture friendships through conversation.
ReplyDeleteWe would never have met in real life without the original online connection.
On the other hand, adventures like the sock quest in real life are opportunities to deepen and connect through conversation.
When I'm looking for a good kick in the ass spur to focus, Leader 193 is my new resource. :)
I believe that sometimes we need to reconcile incongruencies by knowing they are there, acknowledging them, and focusing on the moment.
Treasure your friendship.
Zara Altair, I concur. I think it's safe to say that many of my best friendships are online at this point in my life also. In so many ways, they have become fundamental to my existence and to my happiness. Lifesavers. Such an amazing and unexpected thing.
ReplyDeleteFor me, it wasn't a physical move but other kinds of life changes and the lessons and the reconciliation of the incongruences that pop up are, like you said, made tangible and useful by acknowledgement and focusing in the moment. What I am ultimately learning on a really deep level is how having a mixture of online and offline relationships and connections is my optimal state of being.
The treasuring is mutual.
Leader 193 is an amazingly rich new resource for me as are my interactions with Errol Doebler. I've been listening to the podcasts, but the video resource is a new trove to explore for me. I'm psyched and thanks for the heads up!
ReplyDeleteCouldn’t agree with your sentiments more Zara Altair and Gina Fiedel - showing vulnerability has brought me some of my greatest joys in life. Thank you for sharing this and thank you for your support!
ReplyDeleteErrol Doebler Thanks for the inspiration in this moving presentation. Plus, all those kicks on demand. :)
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